Sunday, January 11, 2009

Forgive and Forget?

Forgiveness is the most powerful tool I have come across in all my years in the self-help industry. Forgiveness is the key to freeing yourself from events in your past that are holding you back.

Holding on to a past hurt is the most debilitating thing you can do. Your mind constantly replays those painful events, strengthen by your emotional response of anger, hate or sadness, you end up creating a vicious cycle in your mind. The worst thing about this is that, if your mind remains focused on events you refuse to forgive, you end up manifesting those same circumstances in your life again.

Forgiveness let’s you take back control of your life, your thoughts now focus on what you want in your life.

Forgetting on the other hand is a little tough for me. Is forgetting a past hurt a good idea? If you forget, do you not run the chance of repeating the same mistake again. I often question aphorisms like “forgive and forget” did the person that came up with it really think it through. Believe me it is possible to forgive, forget and find yourself right back in the same situation. 

Let’s say, in a relationship a partner is cheating on you. You get a gut feeling and you know something is wrong. Later in the relationship you find out your hunch was right (your intuition is always right), you end the relationship, you forgive and move on. 

Which part do you forget?
The partner? 
The betrayal? 
Your actions? 
The gut feeling you had about your partner cheating? NO! 

All I am saying is forgiving is one thing, but don’t forget the point where you knew you should have done something to change the circumstances.

Bottom-line: How can you forgive and forget when you are supposed to learn from every experience in your life?

I prefer to forgive and move on. That is releasing that person, situation or experience from your life by forgiving, letting go and moving on with your wonderful life.

A perfect analogy  about emotional pain:

A past hurt is like a physical scar, it never really goes away. You look at a physical scar, remember the event and get on with your day. You should treat emotional scars are the same way. They are now a part of you, sadly emotional scars never really go away, but like physical scars you should learn to live with them.

You have to forgive, learn from your experience, let go and move on. You are who you are today because of everything you experienced, good and bad. You just have to make sure those experiences are not holding you back.

How do you forgive?
List everybody and everything in your life you feel needs forgiving. 
Find a forgiveness affirmation that resonates with you. 
Repeat your affirmations nightly going over all the people and experiences you need to forgive. 

If a negative thought about a person you need to forgive comes to mind at any time during the day, repeat the affirmation immediately. 

When you feel your affirmations starting to work that is, you feel better about yourself, use a general forgiveness affirmation nightly, this is a kind of maintenance procedure.

Good luck!


POOL..mlm ni la 1st time sy main pool. mmg xtau main pool online ni.Sbb xtau rules dia. Ms tgh xwat ape td, Aizad ajak main pool kt ym. Dia kata dia akn ajar. Bagus tol..

Utk 1st n 2nd KALAH ok. Xper, budak baru 3rd round. Sy berjaya kalahkan dia. Sukanya hati saya. hihi..

Almaklumla, sy ni buta game sket..kalo org main game beriya2, sy mcm xder perasaan je tgok. Kalo rs nak main, baru main. Tapi x pernah rasa keghairahan bermain game. Xtau nape..Kalo kat umah, adik2 main PS pon xder teringin sgt unless mmg diajak. Baru main..hihi.

Okay, MENANG main POOL ngan tok guru Aizad.hahaha...for da 1st time.

Ader sesaper nk ajar sy main chess? Sy xtau main chess ..:p

- Hari nih Birthday Siti Nurhaliza !! Epi Berfday kakak ku..:D

- Malam ni sy pulang ke kampung halaman..KEDAH!! I'm comin' . Jumpa lgik nanti..take care sumer...

Thursday, January 8, 2009


Yess... da abis jwb my 1st paper. Punyela cuak smlm takut soklan yg akan alhamdulillah..insyaAllah..

Dgn ...ada lg one more paper to go...dis comin' Saturday. Chaiyok!!! Excited terlebey lak nk jwb paper ni. kene rilex....huhu.

Kat sini, sy nk wish Selamat Pengantin Baru kpd. Abg Hiswadi n isterinya..Siti Zakiah. Semoga kalian berdua sentiasa diberkati Ilahi dan Berbahagia selamanya..;). X brp nk sure la leh Penang ke,insyaAllah okay...;)

and some more congratz to Nik yg bakal fly ke Adelaide..& u Syafiq..Canberra. All da best 2 both of u.

Kpd sesape yg da abis exam. Slamat bercuti dan slamat beramal...:D

Tuesday, January 6, 2009


At last..

Berjaya jugak register my last n only subject for next sem n then[after pass of coz :p], sy leh dpt title "Officially Graduated". X sabar rasanya. Moga semuanya berjalan dengan lancar.


Bukan ape, coz 1st time nk register subject ni. Leh la plak kene block coz dis sbject jz offer utk dak FLS(Faculty of Life Science).

Agak2la jugak dak final year r.Lgpon, bkn penah pon amik lgik sbjct ni.Then, gi la wat complaint, kat sorang Asst.Director ni. Dia kata still xleh. Alasannya, still sbjct nih offer kt FLS SHJ. Ni da x leh jd..

Tapi, sy xderla risau TERsangat. Sbb dengan "kuasa" final year student,kalo klas da full pon or class clash ke...still leh dpt masuk punyela. But, still kene wat something aite.Sy forward dis case kt sorang lgik Asst.Dir. Then, n rkn2 seperjuangan dptla register. Thanx a lot miss.

Sy ni dok study lelebey kt 1 sbjct je ni sbb ada grade. 1 lgik tu, bila r nk tgok bebetol. mentang2la PASS/FAIL jek sbjct tu. Tapi xper..bsk n lusa..akn ku usaha sungguh2 utk study. Dun wori madam Husni. I will do my best on ur sbjct n same goes to sbjct yg diajar oleh miss Neo. Sy score sbjct u eyh..hehe.

Monday, January 5, 2009

Dah siap

Saya da siap download!


[1] Downloaded songs and video clips:

Jesse McCartney - Told You So
Jesse McCartney - Runnin'
Jesse McCartney - Right Where You Want Me
Jesse McCartney - Relapse
Jesse McCartney - Leavin'
Jesse McCartney - It's Over
Jesse McCartney - How Do You Sleep
Jesse McCartney - Bleeding Love
Jesse McCartney - Because You Live

[amik kt youtube je :p]

[2] Downloaded movies:

- Disaster movie
- Pineapple Express
- The Accidental Husband
- The Mummy Tomb Of The Dragon Emperor
- Never Back Down
- What Happens In Vegas
- The Forbidden Kingdom
- CJ7
- The House Bunny
- Hancock
- Tinker Bell

[3] Variety E- books & E- Novel bout..

- Computer
- Technology
- Health
- Military
- Philosophy
- Science
- Recipes
- etc...

- Sangat banyak benda nk baca.
- Selamatkan dunia dgn tanpa menggunakan kertas lg.

: Tp study pakai kertas lagik..hehe..

: Kpd sesape yg x dpt reply pape ms buzz. sori. Tuannya mmg xder dpn pc. g study tmpt lain. Harap Maklum. :D

Sunday, January 4, 2009


Take a break... TAGGED BY SIS NORA

[01] Real name: Noor Afzan Binti Derus
[02] Nickname: Afzan, Ijan, Adik Jan, Kakak, Noor, Adik.
[03] Status: Single but not looking yet
[04] Zodiac Sign:Taurus
[05] Gender: Female...
[06] Age: 23 yrs old [not officially yet till dis May 09]
[07] High School: Sekolah Menengah Teknik Alor Setar (ASTECH)
[08] College: Multimedia University,Malacca Campus
[09] Height: 160cm
[10] Weight: 43kg
[11] Do you like yourself: of coz
[12] Piercings: yerp..on my ears.
[13] Right or left: both
[14] Are you a freak: depends on da situation
[15] Hair: long
[16] Skin: Malay colour
[17] Allergic: Yerp
[18] What are you doing now: Answering dis tag
[19] What will you doing 1 hour later: Sambung Study
[20] What will you doing 10 years later: Living happily wif muh own family :D

[21] Live with mother/father/parents/family: family
[22] Siblings(included you): 2 out of 6
[23] Eldest: Brother [Shukri Aizat]
[24] Youngest: Mohd Hasbi
[25] Love/hate your family: I do luv muh family damn much

[26] You found your another half: Not yet..x dtg seru lagi.hihi
[27] If yes, who is he/she: Dunno
[28] Who you want he/she to be: hubby,bf,brother,soulmate.
[29] Time(s) you in relationship: no need to tell :p
[30] Ever woo boy/girl: skolah dulu.
[31] Anyone woo you before: dunno..mayb
[32] Did anything wrong to your other half: Dunno. .Xtau pon sape my other half.
[33] What was/were the wrong you had done: simpan sendiri jekla yer.
[34] Ever argue with your other half: Nope. He still somewhere in dis world, n i dunno who’s dat guy.
[35] You with your other half since: Not yet.
[36] Are you straight/Lesbo: Straight la beb..
[37] Reasons you love your other half: U..complete me..;)
[38] You and your other half in which stage: Dunno. Xder lg.
[39] You woo he/she or he/she woo you: Nope. Xtaula kalo dat person actually i pernah kenal.

[41] Your first best friend:Nabilah Binti Mohd Fisol
[42] Your first enemy: X tercapai akalku, sbb x dendam ngan sesape.
[43] The friends you love the most: Sume yg penah kenal.
[44] The enemy you hate the most(1only): Syaitan yg durjana.
[45] Your most beautiful girl friend: many..but i prefer yg cantik budinya.
[46] Your most handsome boy friend: Vic Chou :p haha
[47] The kind of girl you hate the most: Gediks n hipokrit.
[48] The kind of boy you hate the most: Lupa agama,Meninggi suara, Ego x hingat.
[49] You fall in love with your close friend before: Nope
[50] Your best friend is your ex-lover: Dunno..
[51] If your friend backstabbing you: Sad
[52] If your friend betray you: xperla, biar Tuhan je yg tunjukkan segalanya.
[53] If your friend woo your lover: weyh..jgnla..
[54] If your friends fall in love with you: Tgok dulu r camne
[55] If you fall in love with your best friend: Xder bestfriend lelaki r.

[56] Are you a good student: i know wut can i do
[57] You always done your homeworks/assignments: Of coz
[58] The teacher/tutor you love the most: Ustaz..
[59] Always late to school/college: Nope.jrg2..xcept ada smthng happnd.
[60] Your class: Sgt best
[61] You love your seniors: Mayb
[62] Senior who you love the most: Ramai..
[63] Your classmates good/bad: Good
[64] Excellent result classmate: 1st class
[65] Laziest classmate: Dunno

[66] Smart people:Org yg tau tujuan hidup dia.
[67] Stupid people: Kte org je yg x btol, dia punya attitude, ada check x..
[68] Good looking people: Mata yg cantik..senyuman yg sweet, n tenang..
[69] Ugly people: Budi pekerti yg x secantik lahiriahnya yg sempurna.
[70] Funny people: Who can make me laugh.
[71] Cute people: Babies, Kids,Sweet talker, Sopan.
[72] Bad people: Lupa diri n lupa agama.
[73] Honest people:Ader, tp sket je..
[74] Acting people: xyah r berlakon, dah terserlah tipumu dah..
[75] You are what kind of people: Memendam rasa, I dun want people get hurt bcz of me,risk taker, i’ll do anything for people i luv.

[76] Lip or eyes: Eyes
[77] Hugs or kisses: Both..
[78] Shorter or taller: Taller..
[79] Hesitant or spontaneous: Spontaneous
[80] Nice stomach or nice arms: Nice stomach mayb..
[81] Listener or talker: Both..
[82] Romantic or rich: Romantic..
[83] Good husband or Good Father: I want both

[84] Age to get marry: Paling awal pon..25
[85] Numbers of kid(s):4 mayb..:p
[86] Career: Any IT area..but nk jd IT Consultant
[87] Salary: Cukup bayar sume hutang, hidup, parents, family n diri.
[88] Retirement age: Umo pencen ler..
[89] Properties value: House, Car, Company [tinggi tol impian :p]
[90] Wishes: Berada di samping hubby n family tercinta :D

[91]Sis Sheila
[92]Sis Sarah
[93]Sis Azreena

Saturday, January 3, 2009


Tagged by Sis Shyllazahar

1. What is the relationship of you and him/her?
- Friend, x-classmate, sister.

2. Your 5 impressions towards him/her?
- I luv her stand
- Cool
- Matured
- Soft spoken
- Fun

3. The most memorable things he/she had done for you?
- Calm me down
- Make me 2 b brave

4. The most memorable things he/she have said to you?
- Let me keep it by myself :D

5. If he/she become your lover, you will..
- uhuhu..cannot~

6. If he/she become your enemy, you will..
- how could you~

7. If he/she become your lover, he/she has to improve on...
- depends on da r/ship~

8. If he/she become your enemy, the reason is...
- dat person is not me. So, misunderstanding might be occur~

9. The most desirable thing to do on him/her is?
- I’m not sure. Hangout mayb~

10. The overall impression of him/her is...
- Cool

11. How do you think the people around you will feel about you?

- Pendiam..[no actually...]
- i need to observe them [if i jz met] first before i make a move.

12. The character of you for yourself is?
- Observer, keep everything dat i realized in my mind, think bout it carefully, take da risk n put some actions.

13. On contrary, the character you hate of yourself is?
- X boleh marah lebih dr sejam ++. Haih~
- Soft hearted~

14. The most person that you wanna be is?
- No one~

15. For the people who care about and likes you, say something about them.
- Thanx for everything, i’ll appreciate all of u n i’ll keep u guys in muh mind 4rever.

16. Ten people to tag:
[10 persons? Mcm bnyk sgt la. Sape sgt yg nk bace blog ni kn..huhu, tp, ltk je ok per ;)]

1. Kak Sarah
2. Farah
3. Kak Azreena
4. Kak Nora Azura
5. Alia
6. Adeep
7. Zach
8. Irwan
9. Dev
10.Kak Wan

17. Who is no. 2 having a relationship with?
- Adnan

18. Is no. 3 a male or a female?

19. If no. 7 and no. 10 were together, would it be a good thing?

- No. Dorang da ader partner masing2.

20. How about no. 5 and 8?
- No.5 : Dak kecik yg makin aktif berprogram rasanya~
- No.8 : Seorang rakan yg mempunyai karakter abg yg berjaya~

21. What is no. 1 studying about?
- Buss. Inf. Systems

22. Is no. 4 single?
- Mayb~

23. Say something about no. 6..

- Jajah’s BFF

Thursday, January 1, 2009

Happy New Year!!

Holla...Happy New Year !!..its 2009 people!

Okay, muh osmet n i celebrate jgk..huhu. tp, celebrate dgn goreng kopok import dr klate n lepak depan tv + laptop masing2 sambil on forum, baca n buat komen citer yg tgh on air kt tv ms tu.Itula aktiviti yg paling best lpas masing2 mencuba memasukkan data n info ilmu ke dalam minda.

Aku percaya ramai yg da pasang resolution baru, termasukla aku. Aku da aim mcm2 tahun ni. Kira mcm mission imposible jgkla. Nak dapat result exam yg marvellous. nk keje. nk.....(aderla..) n salah satunya .kawen..haha..neah jz kidding. xderla plak terlintas terpk psl tu even kapel.

Neway, rs cam sleepy gaks ni. Penangan makan nasi lemak bikin sendiri punya. Kitorang masak mcm nk wat kenduri. Padahal mkn ber4 jek. Biarlah, makan banyak sikit, bg naik sket badan. Lepas ni, kalo da tiba saat genting nk exam. Mesti tunggang langgang waktu mkn. Yerla, cuak , nervous , tkut dan seangkatan dengannya sume akan muncul ms tu.Kira psl mkn sume blakang kira sketla. Tapi, i wish dpt buat exam dgn tenang. Amin. orait, I'll pray to all MMUians too ;)

Adios~ nk sambung study.